The Lunch Date: Your Segue to The Friend Zone
Few things put the kibosh on sexual attraction like The Lunch Date.
It implies a desire to hang out that is, unfortunately, less for the purposes of scoring a date and more for the purposes of ‘catching up’ while making small talk. It’s a disappointing invitation if you’re the interested party on the receiving end, and an excellent deterrent if you’re the uninterested party doing the inviting. The Lunch Date is your ferry to Platonic Island. It’s subtle and non-confrontational, but still gets the job done. The Lunch Date is the final frontier before that dreaded place all crushes go to die: The Friend Zone.
While invitations to “grab a drink” or “meet up somewhere to hang out” remain shrouded in mysterious intentions, The Lunch Date is a beacon of clarity and steadfast meaning. Obviously no example can apply to 100% of cases, but I maintain that few people would invite someone in whom they’re romantically interested to lunch. It just sends the wrong message.
For starters, lunch is the least personal meal you eat. It occurs smack dab in the middle of the day and is usually pretty short in duration when compared to its colleagues. Lunch is also very likely to be eaten at a crowded restaurant with a high turn over rate (not to mention a plethora of other people’s offspring, ew). This means both inviter and invitee are limited to superficial (read: platonic) conversation – which isn’t exactly conducive to getting to know someone intimately. Brief noshing in crowded, well-lit areas does not a sexy date make.
In fact, pretty much everything about The Lunch Date implies a general lack of both interest and effort on the inviter’s end. It practically screams, “Let’s just be friends!” and can eventually land you a permanent “Oh s/he’s just my friend” role if you’re the unrequited/secret piner type who never speaks up. You must be on guard at all times against The Lunch Date’s stealth attack, and only employ it as a weapon in the most dire of situations. Be careful with The Lunch Date, treat it with respect. Because you never know when you’ll be on the receiving end…
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